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First blog post: Men are Maniacs

Welcome to my blog! I hope my blog posts open your mind to ideas and concepts that you might have never considered regarding how men perceive women. I hope my words can help you articulate what you have been thinking at the back of your mind but unable to express about how half the world’s population is treated.

I’m hoping that my writing will be radical for 2017, but in 50 or so years, it will just be common knowledge and normal. Just like when the suffragettes questioned why they couldn’t vote, they were seen as men-hating radical women, so in response men beat, raped, threatened, took children away and imprisoned women for petitioning and asking kindly to please vote. Men threw their wives out onto the street to suffer just for demanding the right to vote. Now we look back and think that’s horrendous. (Well most people do – but I know some men still think women shouldn’t vote).

These threats of violence are still happening nowadays anytime a woman asks politely for equal rights to men, points out violence or injustice against women, or questions patriarchy.  Nowadays it’s not only governments that are treating women with hatred and contempt, women are harassed online, sent death and rape threats by millions of men all day everyday for just existing and having an opinion. It doesn’t even have to be a radical or interesting opinion. Even if you’re nice, and pander to men, they still hate you. So that’s why I have come to the conclusion that I might as well just speak the truth, stop pandering, stop coddling men, because I know I will get abused anyway. The abuse might as well be worth it!

Even if you’re nice, and pander to men, they still hate you. So that’s why I have come to the conclusion that I might as well just speak the truth, stop pandering, stop coddling men, because I know I will get abused anyway. The abuse might as well be worth it!

Every generation hates it’s women, and will call women men-haters if they demand human rights in their society, if they call out blatant hypocrisy, double standards and general hatred towards women. So here I am knowing I will be one of those that will be hated because I question sexism and hatred of women, double standards and hypocrisy in my generation.

I’m expecting hate mail, because men don’t like women pointing out men’s hatred and disdain towards women. Even though all you have to do is go on Facebook for about 3 minutes and see men attacking women for having an opinion, somehow they think we don’t see that.

Men want women submissive and enslaved for men’s benefit. When women point out men’s abuse of women, men get scared and fight back and lash out. They are scared of losing their privilege to use women as slaves.

I love how men use the gaslighting abuse tactic to tell women that they deserve rape and death for having an opinion, then they say in the next sentence that men don’t abuse women, and that they haven’t seen abuse online and that therefore if they haven’t seen it, it doesn’t exist, even though their threat is just one example. Men are maniacs.

About my blogs:

I don’t mince my words. I don’t try to dance around issues and be submissive and nice to abusers. I get straight to the point and point out the obvious of what we as a society hide behind, in order to appease our oppressors – in the hope they will be nice back. (Hint: men won’t be nice back and they think you’re weak for being kind whilst they hurt us).

Men won’t be nice back and they think you’re weak for being kind whilst they hurt us.

We live in an ‘opposites’ society. One where women are told they are too emotional to be leaders, but we see male leaders punching each other in parliaments, we see them acting like monkeys in cabinet. Men start wars, they participate in wars, and on a smaller scale they carry out mass shootings in public spaces, drive by shootings, attack each other in pubs because a guy bumped into them by accident, they carry out road rage attacks, one punch attacks on innocent victims, they act like lunatics at sports games – yelling, screaming, crying, and destroying property when they lose. Over a game. Over some guy throwing a football on a field. And these men call women emotional.

We live in world where women are somehow supposed to control men’s emotions, and if they don’t, and are victimized by men, then it’s the woman’s fault. In our society men are never to blame for their actions. Women are to blame for men’s actions AND their own actions, just going about their daily lives. A woman is beaten by her husband and people ask ‘why doesn’t she leave’ (even though we know abusers threaten women that they will kill their children, family members etc if they dare leave) instead of asking ‘why does he beat her?’

When a woman is raped / physically attacked / murdered on the street people ask ‘why did she walk there / why was she drinking / why was she wearing a dress’ instead of ‘why did he attack her? Why was he out on bail when he is known to attack women? Why is he not jailed for being a terrorist to women?’

My goal:

  1. To open women’s eyes to how a large percentage of men really feel about them (remember a huge percentage of white men (and women) voted for the racist, misogynistic, child rapist, sex offender Trump), by showing women what is happening in societies and encourage women to see the link and come to obvious conclusions that women are too scared to even think about and accept…that men have a deep contempt and hatred of  women..  I know it’s upsetting to know the truth, that deep down men hate you and think you’re hopeless. But trust me, it’s more upsetting to lose years of your precious life to a man that uses you as a slave and sees you as a worthless being. Women too have been brought up in an anti-woman society, which causes them to look at other women with disdain too.
  2. I want to embolden women to stop submitting and catering to men who don’t give women anything back. I want to empower women to stop giving their free time and resources to men that hate them. I’d like to teach women they don’t have to be nice to men that hate them and want to take away their rights or think they don’t deserve human rights.
  3. To point out lies / opposites / hypocrisy / victim-blaming – ie overall women hating in our society in courts, media, on TV, in religion, in advertising, with acquaintances, colleagues, friends and family members. Point it out always. Don’t back down. Don’t submit to stopping calling it out because men don’t like you calling out things that hurt you and that make them feel superior to you, and contribute to your oppression. If men don’t like these things, then they need to do something to stop men hurting women. Telling women to be quiet isn’t the answer.

There are many male allies who I love – so clearly not all men are maniacs. I follow many lovely men on Twitter and Facebook, and in my life, who have women’s back. Unfortunately these are the minority. It’s a sad society we live in when we are gushing and thankful to men who see women as human. I wish it was the default. I wish it was the norm – but it’s not.

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Peaceful marches don’t work. Men in power are still making anti-women legislation. Men only respond to violence against men. Is violence the answer?

Lets decipher these statements made by the suffragettes in the image above:

‘People remembered the militant attacks on houses and the hunger strikes and believed that it would return if the suffragettes were ignored. This was a very strong reason for the parliament to give women the vote’ (Sylvia Pankhurst). As we can see, parliament only gave women the vote because they were scared of violent attacks upon them. The ‘strong reason’ for the parliament to uplift the ban on women voting wasn’t because they saw women as deserving of human rights, and as equals to men – no, it was because these men were scared of being on the receiving end of violence.

So the ban on women voting was lifted because men didn’t want to get hurt. It’s important to remember that.

The second quote is ‘We have tried every which way, but we have had contempt poured upon us. Violence is the only way that we have to get the power that every citizen should have’ (Emmeline Pankhurst). This shows that men don’t want women to have rights.

Men think women should only have rights when it would be in men’s best interests to (ie to avoid being physically hurt). So nothing to do with doing what is right by women. It’s important to remember that.

We find ourselves in 2017 with women’s rights still being taken away by men of each generation. It doesn’t get better with every generation. We are still fighting our men for basic human rights each generation.

The fact that men are holding women hostage by taking rights away is terrifying. The fact that men have made themselves so powerful that they can take away rights is astounding. It’s so normal in our society for men to be the deciders of if women get rights or not – instead of us being shocked that men are so powerful in the first place that they even have the power to give or take rights.

Every generation of men spend hours of time thinking, writing, editing, lobbying, and discussing how to take women’s basic human rights away. These men spend their working hours, their life, finding ways to take away any power away from women.

The fact men think they own women, and that men can decide the power they have over women is shocking.

Why are men in each generation trying to take away women’s rights?

Why do men do this? Why do men hate women so much they spend hours, days, weeks, months, years of their energy doing whatever they can to strip women of their human rights? Women don’t do this. So why do men? Why do men hate women so much they devote their time to taking women down?

It is hatred and disrespect for women as people. Men want women to be dis empowered to they can use us as slaves for their benefit.

If you don’t agree with either of these explanations, what could the reason be?

Every generation of men spend hours of time thinking, writing, editing, lobbying, and discussing how to take women’s basic human rights away. These men spend their working hours, their life, finding ways to take away any power over themselves that women have. The fact men think they own women that men can decide the power they have over women is shocking.

The time has come to fight back

As the title suggests – and it’s unfortunate, but there comes a time in each woman’s life, that she finally comes to realise that men have no respect for her – that men don’t want her to have rights. Peaceful marching, asking politely, campaigning, calling, lobbying, collecting signatures is not going to secure her rights. Nothing will. Because even if she campaigns for something now, it can easily be taken away by any man at any time and in future generations.

But does violence work in a group or individual level?

Maria J. Stephan & Erica Chenoweth explain in “International Security”“Our findings show that major nonviolent campaigns have achieved success 53% of the time, compared with 26% for violent resistance campaigns. There are two reasons for this success. First, a campaign’s commitment to nonviolent methods enhances its domestic and international legitimacy and encourages more broad-based participation in the resistance, which translates into increased pressure being brought to bear on the target. Second, whereas governments easily justify violent counterattacks against armed insurgents, regime violence against nonviolent movements is more likely to backare against the regime,”

So lets look at the options for women:

Non-violent solution:

We know that men only respond to violence. However we also know that every generation of men will take away any gains women make. So there is no point in committing violent acts in a large scale way – even though the suffragettes did, and it worked.

Violence against men on a large scale wouldn’t work. It would make most women turn towards men more, because women without power try to align themselves with men who have power. Men would take away women’s rights and people would think it’s more justified than they do now. Men would use it to their advantage and they would win the war on women.

Could the solution be that women try to recruit at least 50% of the female population to run amok, not bow to patriarchy in non violent ways? For example:

  • Refuse to marry. Men depend on women marrying because it benefits men on several levels. (Next month’s post is about how women do not benefit from marriage, but men do).
  • If already married – change your surname back to your maiden name and demand your husband change their and your children’s last names to your maiden name. If  husband refuses to change his name to the maiden name, or refuses to let you change your children’s names, threaten divorce. You will unfortunately find out soon enough your husband doesn’t love you enough to stay with you if you’re not going to be submissive to him. He feels entitled to own you and brand you with his name but won’t stand for you to brand him with your name. He sees you as less than him.
  • If single – refuse to settle. If you are on a date and the guy says something sexist, don’t smile, don’t try to act nice, don’t try to explain. Tell them that you don’t date men that hate women. Get up and leave. Block them. Do not respond.
  • If already married – refuse to do more of your fair share (half) of the emotional labour in your relationship.
  • If already married – refuse to do more of your fair share (half) of the housework labour in your relationship.
  • If already married – refuse to do more of your fair share (half) of the childcare labour in your relationship. That includes any time that is spent driving to pick up the children etc.

The problem with this is, sisterhood has been destroyed by patriarchy. This article ‘How they broke our Grandmothers’ is an excellent overview of how over generations, men made it their mission to destroy the sacred feminine link that we all have with other women. By breaking this link, making things scarce, creating competition, and spreading lies about women’s nature to young girls so they grow up believing men-made lies about women, has damaged our DNA. So many women won’t want to do this and will want to align with and submit to men. Even if it means they are subject to abuse, being used and disrespected.

Men did this on purpose. Generation after generation. Amazing when you think about it. The conniving evil in these men to think of this and carry it out. Amazing.

If you’ve seen the Suffragettes movie you will see that the main character has a good relationship with her husband until she says she wants equal rights. Then he throws her out of the house, denies her access to her son and gives their son away. I think it’s important for women to see this and think about it. Think about your situation and how the man that says he loves you only loves you most probably because you submit to what he wants. If you don’t submit and want equality with him, it’s likely he will discard and destroy you.

Violent solution:

I do not condone violence against innocent members of the public or against one gender. We shouldn’t lower ourselves to men’s level of hating all women and punishing all women by attacking, using and abusing them. However I think it’s time to fight back on an individual level against abusers.

Most women’s rights campaigns try to appeal to the human side of men in power. Which is where they get it all wrong. Often a man in power does not have the part of the brain capacity to be able to care about other people other than himself and people like him (ie other men).  So the only way to get men in power on our side is to appeal to how much is being saved by ridding society of abusive men who are costing us millions in caring for battered women, in court costs, in jail costs that men accrue when they assault, maim and murder women. So if trying to appeal to most men, use the money angle. No point in trying to get them to care via emotive means. They only care about money. They don’t care about women.

It’s time for individual women to fight back with force when they are assaulted, battered, raped, sexually abused, if their child is sexually abused and so on.

Men depend on women being nice and not fighting back. Can you imagine what it would be like if in relationships when men punched their wife, that the wife killed him?

Can you imagine what it would be like if when a man rapes a woman’s child, she finds him and murders him?

I will give you personal examples of when I didn’t fight back and really regret it. I was in an emotionally abusive relationship with a man when I was in my early 20s. Because I had nice parents growing up and no one had ever explained to me what emotional abuse was, I didn’t see the signs and had no idea I was being emotionally abused. He anally raped me after I told him that I didn’t agree to anal sex. I then suffered issues for years after with rectum pain which can be debilitating. I regret that when he had finished raping me, I didn’t go to the kitchen, grab a knife and kill him. I was too nice. I cried and told him I hated him, but didn’t fight back. I didn’t hurt him, even though he had hurt me. Never again will I be nice and care about men when they hurt me. You shouldn’t either.

When I was a teenager, I arrived at my friend’s house for her birthday party. I walked into the lounge room with a friend and there were 2 guys sitting on the couch.  I smiled and said hello. My friend  who was hosting, was in the kitchen preparing the snacks. One of the guys got up from the couch, grabbed my arm and dragged me quickly into the bathroom and locked the door behind him. It happened so quickly. I got into a boxing position, without thinking about it. By then my friend was screaming outside the door and the girl who was hosting the party was yelling at him to open the door. We stood staring at each other for a few minutes. I was thinking that he’s going to rape me. I think he thought I knew boxing as I was in the boxing stance, which is why he decided to open the door. He was scared of getting hurt. Instead of  anyone calling the police or me going into the kitchen, grabbing  knife and killing him, we all stood around not quite sure what to do. I was shaking so the host took me into the bedroom to comfort me and he left. Never again will I be nice and care about men when they hurt me. You shouldn’t either. We never talked about it again.

Both of these men will surely go on to batter and rape numerous women because they know they can. Now I will fight back. And you should too.

That is just 2 of a dozen instances of sexual attacks I’ve endured by men I know and strangers in my 30 years. 99% of women have been sexually harassed, attacked or raped. Ask all the women around you and be true to yourself about your experiences.

I know it’s hard to admit the number of times you were sexually assaulted by men, but it’s important to be truthful to yourself and others to speak of the epidemic of male hatred and violence against women.

Women will often not admit to being sexually assaulted

I was talking to my friend and her brother about how myself and every woman I have talked to has been sexually assaulted at least once in their lifetime. I asked if she had ever been assaulted. She looked shocked and said ‘no!’ extremely fast. Her brother looked at her and frowned. He reminded her of the time that she was walking along a platform to meet him at a train station and he saw an old man grab her arse, hold it for a few seconds while she pushed him away, then laugh at her and slap her arse.  The brother confronted the man and yelled at him, called the guard, and discussed it with the staff but nothing further was done. At the time she had brushed it off and said it was nothing, but her brother said they were sitting in the train and he could see her trembling.

This woman had just told me with force that she had not been sexually harassed or assaulted ever. Yet we have eye witnesses that she was, and she was negatively affected by it. So why is it so important for women to say that nothing bad has ever happened to them and/or it was nothing and brush it off?

I think it’s a coping mechanism. Otherwise we would be driven mad at men’s attitude and hatred for us. So God only knows how many other times she has been sexually assaulted if she won’t even admit the time that she was assaulted in front of her brother, was actually sexual assault. She couldn’t explain why it wasn’t sexual assault. She was more concerned about talking about something else, so I dropped it out of respect for her. This is not surprising with the way girls are socialised to let men get away with assaulting women, and women not talking about it or taking it seriously.

Many men will love hearing about me and other women being attacked and hurt by men. Many men enjoy hearing of women being raped, battered and murdered. In fact rape porn in India is highly sought after. And torture porn is one of the most searched for terms. Ladies – remember this when you find yourself up against men trying to silence you. Remember that they depend on you being silent, they would love to see you battered and raped at the bottom of a pit.

I think women can’t imagine how men could hate them so much, but all you have to do is remember how many women are killed, battered and raped all day every day, and the police, judges, media that support men to do this and support women being victim blamed. I don’t want to believe it either – but the evidence is there and too big to ignore.

Patriarchy depends on men being able to kill, maim and attack women with no recourse and no justice for the survivor. But what if we started fighting back and told our daughters, nieces, female cousins etc that it is ok to fight back if someone attacks you? Would society change? would men in power make changes that would make things better for women? or would our men make it so that women will get jailed for attacking men back?

It is justified to fight back against someone that is abusing you. You will be more satisfied ridding the world of yet another male abuser, than dealing with decades of abuse, vilification, and learning the justice system is set up to protect men and ensure they continue to abuse and kill women. That is men’s way of getting back at women…because of their internal hatred of us.

Men of course that are against this approach of women fighting back, are the type of men that are either abusers themselves, or they are men that know that men who beat, rape and kill women are maintaining the oppression of women, which assists these men to have unearned privilege. This is why when 70 or so women are murdered by men on average each year in Australia alone, it’s not a big deal, but if a woman dares fight back against her oppressor, it’s all over the news and remembered for decades.

Remember Lorena Bobbit – she was all over the news for years, for attacking her husband after years of abuse.

Remember Marissa Alexander who fired a warning shot in the air to scare off her abuse ex after he threatened to kill her and her children. She got a 20 year jail sentence

Remember Tang Hui who was sent to a hard labour camp for asking for a harsher penalty for the men who kidnapped, raped and prostituted her 11 year old daughter.

That is just 3 examples out of a million women who are punished all over the world for fighting back against male abuse.

Men attack, rape, maim, kill women all day everyday all over the world, but as soon as woman fights back, she is brought into the spotlight to show women everywhere that they dare not fight back, or look what happens. Even just ASKING for justice can land women in jail or abused by men. It didn’t stop at the suffragettes. If this isn’t proof that men want women silenced so they can do to us what they please with no consequences. Men protecting and supporting men to rape and abuse women.

Men attack, rape, maim, kill women all day everyday all over the world, but as soon as woman fights back, she is brought into the spotlight to show women everywhere that they dare not fight back, or look what happens: you will be ruined. Society will ruin you. Even just ASKING for justice can land women in jail or abused by men.

Men really don’t like it when women fight back against their abuse. That’s why I ask all women to do their upmost to fight back violently and kill if your life is in danger. We need to change the culture where men get attacked back, where they fear revenge. Where they don’t think they can just get away with anything with no consequences.

I know that feminists will be shocked at my calling to fight back – but I’m not calling for women to attack men that are doing nothing wrong or going about their daily business (like men attack women). I’m calling for women to fight back and kill men who are violating them and who are a danger to women. If you have a problem with that, you are  trying to uphold the patriarchy, and you cannot call yourself a feminist. You are deep down on the side of men and care more for men’s safety and life than you care for women’s safety and life.

Let’s imagine a man is walking down the street and a guy attacks him, the victim fights back and the attacker dies. Most people would read that in the paper and think ‘oh dear, that victim was lucky’ but think nothing more of it. This is what I’m calling for: women if you get attacked in any way, fight back. If you don’t agree with that, then why aren’t you calling out and getting angry about men who fight back and kill their attackers?

I know that you won’t have many on your side because we live in a patriarchy and it’s important for the patriarchy to uphold the ‘right’ for men to attack women without consequences, but we can see that nothing will change.

We have campaigned for generations for men to be held to account, we have campaigned for women’s shelters, but governments keep taking away funding. Governments are refusing to fund rape kit testing, so that the rapists can remain free to keep attacking. What they are saying is that women are weak and worthless.

Lets change that. Fight back.

Remember, men are forcing us to do this as they are giving us no other option. Generations of women have asked nicely, have sacrificed their lives and time campaigning for funds to keep women safe and to save lives. But police, judges and governments are failing women – on purpose. Remember that. It was designed to destroy women. It’s not a mistake that the system is made this way.

Men and women who complain and think this is a bad idea: tell me – what do you propose? Do you hate women that much that you want women to sit quietly, be abused, battered, raped and killed whilst you ask nicely AGAIN for the hundredth time for funds to please help a refuge for battered women stay open? Do you want another rapist allowed to go out and rape as many women as he wants because you’re too scared to say to men that it’s enough and that women matter as much as men and women shouldn’t have to fear for their lives all day every day?

If you’re a woman: don’t pander. Don’t be nice. No more. Men hate you. Get it through your head. They want us submissive, battered and afraid. If you can’t do it for yourself, do it for the next generation of girls. They deserve better. They deserve a society where the majority won’t be emotionally or physically abused by a family member or partner, where the majority will experience sexual harassment, assault, abuse or rape. Our future girls deserve better than a society where getting sexually assaulted or raped is expected.

Our future girls deserve to live in a society where men who rape and kill are jailed for life. Since this is not happening, we have to individually do our best to change the system. The system isn’t going to change no matter how many nice, peaceful, love filled marches we do. It won’t change no matter how many times we get angry at judges for letting men out to rape and kill again. Do your bit individually. If we all do our bit individually, then things will change.

Because men only change when they fear violence against themselves or other men.  Yes, it would be nice if men cared about women, but you just have to accept they don’t, and get on with it.

Generations of women have asked nicely, have sacrificed their lives and time campaigning for funds to keep women safe and to save lives. But police, judges and governments are failing women – on purpose. Remember that. It was designed to destroy women. It’s not a mistake that the system is made this way.

Best of luck!

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Next month’s blog is about how marriage benefits men at the expense of women

Why do men take away women’s rights generation after generation?

Something that has played on my mind and got me thinking after attending the women’s march in Sydney on 21 January 2017:

Having attended the women’s march as part of a worldwide coordinated, historic event of millions of women across every continent against Trump and men like him who fill our parliaments, courts, police stations, media outlets, and who are our own fathers, brothers, uncles, partners, and hearing women stand up and say they are sick of fighting for our rights in each generation, or banners with ‘I can’t believe I’m still protesting this shit’ – they leave out the obvious: the perpetrator: Men. I think it’s important to name the problem – otherwise how are we going to fix it?

So, let’s get to the bottom of this. Let’s look at the source. Let’s turn it around, and ask the tough questions that people are scared of asking. Let’s be honest and harsh: something women are not allowed to do, because they are so scared of offending men who hate them:

Why do men take away women’s rights generation after generation?

I think I have a good idea of who these men are and some idea as to why. I’m sure I will be able to update my reasoning after men file in to tell me why they hate women so much after this blog. I would love to hear from women on their thoughts too of course.

These are my initial thoughts on what is to blame:

RELIGION

Boys growing up in religious households will see that women are supposed to be submissive, that men are superior, godly, that women were born to serve men, and they will be taught to believe that what men wants come first before a woman’s right to happiness or safety.

What you can do if you love women:

Stop subscribing to religion. Religion is made up. Surely you know that by now! It was made by men for men. You cant say you’re religious and a feminist. You can’t pick and choose out of the bible or Koran or whatever silly made-up book you subscribe to and say you don’t agree that girls and women should be raped and enslaved. Well your God wants it – so are you going to go against your own God? Are you saying God is wrong? If you think God is wrong – God hates you for thinking he is wrong. If you really are religious, that means you believe you will be going to hell for saying God is wrong. YOU are going to get punished for men hurting you. Why are you ok with that? surely that makes NO sense that you would be willing to remain religious knowing that God hates you for pointing out male violence.

Are you saying God is wrong? If you think God is wrong – God hates you for thinking he is wrong. If you really are religious, that means you believe you will be going to hell for saying God is wrong. YOU are going to get punished for men hurting you. Why are you ok with that? surely that makes NO sense that you would be willing to remain religious knowing that God hates you for pointing out male violence.

If you desperately need to be a part of something, which I know is in most people’s human nature, and which, surely, can be the only reason women continue to be part of an oppressive patriarchal women-hating, clearly fabricated institution, why don’t you join a book club, feminist club, dance club, running club, [your nationality] club – so that you as a woman, who might have children now or in the future, or nieces / nephews…can do your bit in the world to end male oppression of women. Make it your life mission to not submit to patriarchy or be complicit in male oppression of women.

Each generation of women needs to think about the next generation of men and what they get up to. Yes, you can take your son to a women’s march and smile and be nice, and tell him women don’t have some rights still, and that you are marching because you want to teach him that women are equal and deserve the same human rights as men.

But then you take him to church the next day and he learns he is superior, women are hopeless and men need to make decisions for them. And you are there smiling and being nice to people who hate you. Don’t confuse your son. Don’t confuse your daughter. Stop being part of an oppressive group. Otherwise you are part of the problem.

Look at it this way: Imagine you’re a vegetarian that doesn’t eat meat because you love animals and don’t like the thought of animals suffering and think they deserve to right to live peacefully without violence. But then you donate time and money to and support abusive abattoirs, that you know have a history of ongoing animal abuse. You know you are supporting the meat industry and tell your children that the abattoirs are good and that they should support them. But at the same time you tell your children treating animals is bad because they deserve respect. It doesn’t make sense.

Now, lets change that to incorporate women and churches (of course this can incorporate any religion)

Imagine you’re a woman that doesn’t support abuse of women because you love women and don’t like the thought of women suffering and think they deserve to right to live peacefully without violence. But then you donate time and money to and support churches, who you know have a history of ongoing women abuse. You know you are supporting the oppression of women and tell your children that religion is good and that they should support it. But at the same time you tell your children that women should have the right to live freely without being oppressed.

You can’t say “women should be free from oppression, that’s why I’m a feminist” then go and support a group that create and maintain patriarchal structures that oppress you and the lives of most women in the world. It doesn’t make sense. It’s illogical.

You have to choose: feminism or oppression. If you choose religion then you have no right pretend you care about women having equal rights. You’re a hypocrite. Think about your daughter’s future rights. Put your children’s needs above your own need for attention and affection and praise from men who hate you and think you are only on this earth of serve them and cater to their needs.

Stop being part of the problem. Stop supporting an institution that you know oppresses women all over the world. Stop bringing your children up with religion which teaches them males are superior and right, and females are subservient, only useful in relation to men’s needs and are weak.

MISOGYNY

Its not only religious men that hate women. Tons of atheists hate women. This comes down to culture, what they see around them in society.

What you can do:

Call out sexism EVERY time you see it. You will see it at least 15 times a day. But call it out every time. I know it’s scary to be that woman, because you desperately tell yourself that your husband / brother / father/ boyfriend isn’t sexist and he loves you.

I have done it and the reaction to calling out rape culture is met with anger and disdain by most. For example, a Melbourne school girl was raped and murdered by a serial offender that had been bailed even though he was known to be a threat to women.

When I said to my male family members and posted online saying that I was outraged that police and media covering a schoolgirl getting raped was being victim blamed, all I received back was downright disdain for me bringing it up, rolling of eyes, show of boredom, online abuse, all because I pointed out the obvious: that a schoolgirl shouldn’t be blamed for her own rape by a man that was on bail, that was a known predator and should never have been released. (No woman should be victim blamed. Ever). But the audacity to direct the blame of a patriarchal ‘justice’ system that allows predators out, to the victim, is astonishing.

If these men loved women, would they do that? no.

So try it yourself. Be prepared to find out, to your dismay, that all the men in your life hate you deep down for pointing out injustice for women.

You most likely will lose your partner, your family, some of your friends for standing up for women’s rights – but you know what, there are millions of feminists out there that want to be your friend. They are grateful for you standing up to men. You don’t have to be scared. In fact, I think its more scary to share a bed with a man that hates you deep down. Do you want to waste your life with a man that had disdain for you? that thinks he’s superior to you? even if he doesn’t articulate it – the way he responds to you pointing out sexism, will show what he really thinks of you.

Personally, I’m lucky to have a best friend whose husband is a feminist who is outraged and just as upset as my best friend and I are when they hear of sexism. If your partner just acts annoyed, or not disgusted at hearing of 14 year old girls being attacked by acid on their faces and genitals because they didn’t birth a son to their 45 year old husband, then you know you’ve got a woman-hater on your arm. Get rid of him. If you are desperate to have a boyfriend in your life, remember there are good men out there and its better to be single that with someone that hates you. Don’t settle!

Don’t be weak and desperate, don’t try to be quiet and submissive to men that hate you. It doesn’t make sense does it?

I know you’re thinking: wow! That’s a lot of hate right there! This person must hate men! Well think about it – I’m responding normally to men hating women.

If men didn’t want to take away women’s basic human rights I wouldn’t hate men.

If men didn’t rape, assault, mutilate, burn with acid, murder, beat women en masse, then I wouldn’t hate men.

Men aren’t walking around, being nice, not attacking women or taking away their rights and I hate them. Yes that would be sexist and silly of me. That would make no sense for me to hate men.

Women don’t go around raping, attacking men with acid, murdering men, taking away men’s rights, yet men still hate women.

If men didn’t hate women, why would they do these things to women? Society is scared to admit that men hate women for no reason, hence why women standing up for women’s rights is deemed a man-hater. Men are supposed to be able to hurt women and women are supposed to keep quiet and not fight back.

When women fight back with WORDS against men killing, maiming, burning, strangling, cutting up, acid attacks, beating, raping, drowning women, then women are called the men haters! Men are maniacs.

So if you think I hate men, then it’s because men hate women. It’s my response to men hating women. Women are so conditioned to be nice even when men hate them, that me showing hatred for men hating women, is seen as shocking. Whereas men’s women-hating actions are seen as normal.

Don’t be scared of calling out men’s hatred of women.

Men that hate women are not going to like you if you keep quiet or if you are submissive and do what they say. They still hate you.

You have a choice: submit and be used by men that hate you, or call out men’s hatred and be free from men’s hate of you. Don’t settle for men that hate you. If you need men in your life, choose to have only feminist men in your life – so that can you can enjoy your life without being used!

A few days after the march of love-filled peaceful marching, men in power decided to take away women’s basic human rights and handed a death sentence to hundreds of thousands of women worldwide by taking away healthcare funds. This would have been signed whether not not we marched, but at least we got something out of it. The march was good in a way it showed females of all generations that they are not alone, and made people feel empowered and happy for a brief time.

However, marches don’t make men change their mind, or stop men from taking away rights. So what can be done?

My next blog will discuss how peaceful marches don’t work. Men in power are still making anti-women legislation. Men only respond to violence against men. Is violence the answer?

See you next month!

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